I found wisdom on raising a confident child and how to build your child’s self-esteem, but it dawned on me as I read these posts that in our search for help on how to be the best parents we can be, we often overlook the obvious.
If you want your child to feel good about himself and to feel confident in herself, then here’s the one rule you need to remember: Treat others as you wish to be treated yourself.
Pretty simple and straightforward, but absolutely golden, don’t you think? This little rule should be the filter through which we parent.
When you want to say something harsh to your child, ask yourself, would I want someone to speak to me this way?
When you must correct and discipline your child, ask yourself, am I still treating my child respectfully as I would want to be treated or am I disciplining in a demeaning way?
When your child comes to you and wants to talk, but you have a mountain of work that must be done, will you listen as you would want to be listened to or will you brush him off?
When your child does something to anger you, ask yourself, would I want to feel someone’s anger indefinitely, or would I rather experience their forgiveness?
The Golden Rule of Parenting can transform your parenting strategy and shape your child’s confidence. It may not cut down on family squabbles and problems, but in the midst of the hot mess we call family, your child’s self-esteem can grow as he experiences first hand the golden power of treating others with respect.
Janis B. Meredith, sports mom and coach’s wife, writes a sports parenting blog called JBM Thinks. She authored the Sports Parenting Survival Guide Series and has recently launched a podcasting series for sports parents.You can also find her on Facebook , Twitter and Youtube.