I have been so stressed lately. I have been back at work for two years this past October and worked so hard to prove myself after being a stay at home mom. It really paid off because I’ve received several promotions and absolutely love my job! I also worked so hard to make the switch easy for my son. I didn’t want his life to change too much even though going back to work was a huge transition. I’ve been making sure I’m still involved with his school and sports, volunteering and going to games. In addition, I still have some old clients that I do freelance marketing work for. In my spare time I run this blog. Needless to say with all of that going on I have not been taking care of myself, not at all. I’ve gained weight. I look like death. I feel horrible. I am tired every waking moment of every day. I woke up last week and thought, “I do not want to live my life this way. I’m just existing, not really living.” So I decided to make a change. I’m going to do whatever it takes to feel wonderful every day!
The first step in my transformation is positive thinking. Every single thing in my life is positive. I’m even going to put a spin on the negative and make it positive. Here are a few examples:
- When I wake up in the morning at 5 a.m. and don’t want to get out of bed instead of thinking, “Ugh it sucks I have to get up this early! I’m so tired!” I’m going to think, “I’m so lucky I have a job to go to every day! I’m so lucky my boss let’s me come in early so I can leave early to be with my son every night. I’m so lucky that my early schedule means I get to enjoy my son’s childhood and be there for every moment! I’m so lucky I don’t have to pay a babysitter or daycare because I get home early!”
- I have an hour long commute each way. That’s two hours of driving a day. Instead of saying, “My commute is terrible! I hate having to drive so far! It’s ten hours of my week I’m wasting! I spend so much in gas money!” I’ve decided I’m going to enjoy my alone time. I’m so lucky I can listen to the music I want. I can sing along as loud as I want! I can have complete thoughts without someone bugging me! I’m so lucky I have this time!
- I am not the same mother I was when I was a stay-at-home mom. I just can’t be. I have 50 less hours a week to focus on it. I can’t drive my son’s homework over to the school if he forgot it. I can’t drop him off and pick him up from school every day. I now get home an hour after he does. I have been feeling so much guilt and the negative thoughts regarding this have been ENDLESS! Then it dawned on me, my child is actually doing better now. He forgot his homework a bunch of times last year but now he never does. He makes sure his bag is packed because he knows no one will be able to run his work over to him in a pinch. He has developed so much confidence due to the independence he now has without his mom hovering (Yes, I hover. I can’t help it.) So my guilt is only because I’m not living up to the expectation I’ve created in my head which is that I need to be there 24/7 in order to be a good mom. I need to practice what I preach when I say accept yourself as a less than perfect parent! My son is doing great in sports, gets good grade, has lots of friends, and is a genuinely nice person (that was not in order of importance). I realized that if he is such a great kid than I must be doing some right. From now on I’m going to think that we’re lucky that we have some space. I’m lucky my son has been given this opportunity to grow without me there. He is able to be successful without me making sure the homework is done. He is able to develop his independence and confidence. I’m so lucky I’m not there constantly!
Now I want YOU to join me! RIGHT NOW! Tell me something negative in your life that you can turn into a positive! Let’s all be role models for our kids and live the lives we deserve!