Let me explain it by beginning with a quote from Erma Bombeck, who said, quite simply:
No one ever died from sleeping in an unmade bed.
I think that we would all agree that making the bed is a good thing, however, it is not something worth focusing on.
You see, it boils down to the difference between what is good and what is best. And I fear that many of us get caught up in all kinds of good pursuits, and get distracted from what is best.
It’s good to volunteer for many things, but is it always what is best–for you and your family?
It may be good to take that job, but is it what is best for you in the long run?
I see my 20-something kids struggle with this periodically as they are trying to make a choice. They think, “Oh, this is a good choice.” And I want to add, “But is it what’s best?”
Parents get so bogged down in focusing on what’s good–good grades, good athletic performance, or a clean room–that you either don’t have the energy or just simply forget to focus on things that are really important. But there are things that are way more important than good grades, a good game, or a clean room.
In our house, the things that are really important are character, compassion, and following God.
As for you and your house, you must decide what your underlying values are. What are the “best” things that you should be focusing on, instead of getting caught up in the “good” things?
Don’t let the good things keep you from the best things.
Janis B. Meredith, sports mom and coach’s wife, writes a sports parenting blog called jbmthinks.com. Her new booklet 11 Habits for Healthy and Positive Sports Parents is available on Amazon.